If she’s someone who loves with all her heart… someone who loves you more than she loves herself… someone who would go above and beyond to make you happy… she will stay…
She will stay through all the misery you put her through. She will forgive you for all your wrong-doings. She will look past red flags. She will ignore the fact that you constantly take her for granted. Even though you do not realize or ignore the fact, she will constantly be breaking up piece by piece hoping to mend you. She will be looking forward to a day that you would change and love her like she’s the most precious thing in your life. She may even leave when she’s deeply hurt but she will be coming back because for her, you are the most precious thing in her life.
But,
There will come a time; a breaking point. Even she herself does not know when or how that will happen but she will give up. Not for a while but forever. At that point of time, you will be too late! There is nothing on Earth that you can do to get her back. She will be gone!
Sadly,
She will only then realize that she didn’t have to do everything she did. It is then that she’s going to understand that being strong is not holding on to something just because you want it to work out but to know your self-worth and to stand up for yourself. She will be regretting for not putting herself first. She will be filled with self-doubt, hatred, trust issues and a broken heart. She will begin to question love. It is going to take a lot to get over that trauma and live peacefully and happily again. Trusting and loving another man like she used to will be next to impossible.
The problem is that no matter how much you explain this to a person, regardless of gender, you only understand this through experience. And I don’t mean just for the person who ends up with a heart-break. It is the same for the other party. They do not realize what they had until they lose it. All they are left with is regret.
If you are not one of the lucky few who ends up a lifetime with their first love, you are most likely to face or have already faced a similar situation. The only differences are the time spent and the effort put into the relationship.
To all the men out there,
If you find that special person, love her in a way that she questions if she has even experienced love before. She will light up your life for years to come. By any chance, if you meet a girl who has already gone through that heartbreak, she is going to need a bit more support to get through it. Once she does, she will love again with all her heart. As a bonus, you will be getting a partner who has a lot more understanding about life.
How do I know?
I’ve lived through it and now on the way to living the best of my life!
Happily married to an amazing man who was by my side while I was healing from my past. According to him, I wasn’t broken. I was just cracked. Here we are 3 years into our marriage, continuously filling the cracks with gold…
